Wednesday, March 12, 2014

What Will You Remember?



Whew!!  The year started out in a rush as always.  Like many of you, I could probably write a novel on how busy our schedules can be.  Unfortunately, it seems to be the chronic state of the world these days. 

In January, with our 2014 calendar freshly hung on the wall, it was back to work and school and the fast pace of life for our family.  Suddenly, we were thrust back into the rat race of running to sporting events and practices, dance classes, appointments, workouts, the grocery store, etc.  Meanwhile, we managed to find time for homework, household chores, “to-do” lists, vacation plans, and some family time, as we skidded through the first couple months of the year on an iceberg of cold weather.  Now, as March is upon us, dangling spring from melting icicles just beyond our reach, the schedules of the Kleve family have slowed to a more manageable pace (for now.) 

Lately, we have been finding ourselves home shortly after school and work let out.  Family suppers are once again on the menu most nights and family games of pool can be found on most evening agendas.  Although the homework and household chores still remain, we have found a little time to sit back and appreciate the simple things in life once again.  As I ponder tonight's supper menu, I realize I have not written a blog post since early January.  As my breathing slows, my muscles relax, and my heart fills with the memory of a recent weekend filled with good old fashioned family time, I realize how much I appreciate this slower pace ...

It is during these calmer times that we find more quality in every moment.  For argument's sake, busy people often refer to the fact that it is not the quantity of time a family spends together, it is the quality of that time.  Well, in reality, when we are so caught up in being busy and running from here to there, we aren't in the correct state of mind to appreciate those quality moments whether they are few or many.  It is during the slower moments, that we make memories out of random, common things – a silly comment, goofy reaction, lyrics sung incorrectly or a bit off key, the outcome of a game, a story told, plans made, and moments of laughter or tears.  As my family and I have found more of these moments, our stressed-out minds have been calmed, and the babies I once knew are peaking out of the teenage bodies they have grown into. 

Often, I have found, that people use busy-ness as a crutch, an excuse to escape from problems or tasks they don't want to face.  Once in a while, this can be healthy - if we are waiting for something such as results from a doctor or other important news - something we can't do anything about but wait.  It is helpful to keep busy in these moments in order to pass the time.  But yet other times, people may dive into the next big task rather than face a personal problem that could be fixed.  Some people may also use busy-ness as simple procrastination.  If they sweep the kitchen floor five more times, they will legitimately not have time to tackle that larger, more important task they have been putting off.  Some people may stay at the office so they don't have to notice that their son is not finishing his homework, their daughter has been staying out too late, or their spouse hasn't reached for their hand in months.  It would be a shame to find ourselves five years down the road, looking back at a blur of memories of shouting matches as we rushed out the door, buzzing alarm clocks, waving hello or goodbye as we meet in the driveway or on the road, eating on the fly, and passing in the night.  Sometimes (in fact frequently) we need to take a step back from our busy tasks and let life take us in - let our hearts fill up with the emotions of life (both good and bad) lest someday we look back and find that we missed our own lives for the sake of the race.

Please join me today in remembering what life is all about.  Lay aside your cell phones, laptops, calendars and clocks.  Let go of your fears, excuses, and to-do lists.  Reach out to your loved ones, play a game, share a snack, watch a movie, take a walk or simply stand in the kitchen and talk.  It is in these moments that memories are made.  Take the time to experience today, breathe it all in, soak it all up, and let each fleeting moment become a memory to cherish for years to come.  

When today becomes a memory -- what will YOU (and your loved ones) remember?   

Sunday, January 5, 2014

Our Road Map of Memories

One of my goals this past year was the practical task of creating albums for the photos I have taken over the last five years.  For a number of reasons, I had gotten behind on this previously annual task.  While I was off work over the holidays, I searched and found, printed and organized, and even laughed and cried!  Although I am not quite finished, I am getting close. 

 I am certainly not claiming to be a great photographer – very far from it.  The purpose of my photos is simply to commemorate each moment, creating a road map to the story of our lives.  There are a variety of high points – vacations with once-in-a-lifetime bucket list events, and milestones including first-days-of-school, 8th grade graduation, weddings, and braces come and gone.  There are traditional, yearly events – coloring Easter eggs, Chuck E. Cheese visits, birthdays and “Christmas Tree Family Days” as well as shots of the kids playing ball, singing in concerts and dancing.  I captured a few every-day moments, the kids (and Shawn) acting goofy, smirking or hiding from the camera.  For some reason, they also captured a few photos of me as well, though usually not when I was camera-ready, and they typically tried for the most comical of angles – thank you very much!  But that is our family for you.

There were a couple years where the photos were hard to go through.  One year showcased our unknowing smiles where the innocence brought tears to my eyes while another year reminded me of the heartbreak.  The photos were almost therapeutic, putting a stamp on some of the moments that had originally been experienced with a less-than-present-numbness and other photos brought back moments that made me smile.  It’s hard to believe my children were so young back then – not quite sure where the years have gone… 

With only recent photos left to be organized, I feel a sense of accomplishment.  No, this past year was not about many major bucket list accomplishments. (Though our family did enjoy seeing New York City, checking three major league stadiums off the bucket list and seeing a Lion King production on Broadway.  I also enjoyed the experience of learning to throw pottery on a pottery wheel.)  But mostly this year was simply about living the good life, the day-to-day, finding balance and enjoying each moment.  Yes, another year has come and gone, replaced by a new set of 365 days (and a brand new album) to fill with a year’s worth of new memories and accomplishments.  My camera (and my pen) are ready!  I wonder what 2014 has in store … 

Saturday, August 10, 2013

My Life Bouquet

I stop to smell the roses
For a moment ... maybe two,
Take a break from all the busyness
(They say that's good to do.)

As I take a breath, I picture
My life as a bouquet
Of many gorgeous flowers
In a beautiful array.

Red roses for my husband
A color deep and strong
My loyal friend and confidant
We're right where we belong.

White roses for our children
They make our lives complete
With a couple of carnations
For our dancer and athlete.

An orchid for my mother
She helped make me who I am,
With lilacs for the others
My family and my friends.

There are light and fluffy peonies
Their fragrance makes me smile
As my thoughts turn back to yester-year
I reminisce a while.

A random thorn of heartbreak
An annoying weed (or nine)
Make me grateful for the flowers
And their colors, so divine.

With daisies for the summer
When the sun is shining bright
And a primrose for the evening
As the days turn into night.

There are daffodils and tulips
For tomorrow and next year
For health and some prosperity
With a touch of cheer.

A little sprig of laughter
And a spray of special times
With a lily thrown in "just because"
Make my life bouquet sublime!





© [Kendra Kleve] [2013] [All Rights Reserved].




Thursday, July 11, 2013

"BLAHGCK" or "BLUE"?


Anyone who knows me knows that I LOVE the color Blue.  I love it in any shade .... but especially in royal blue or light sky blue.  I am drawn to it ... wear it frequently ... decorate my house with it .... write with it ... and am enamored when I see it in the eyes of my family or in the sky on a sunny day!  It just plain seems to make me happy! :-)

Then why do people use the word "blue" to describe a feeling of sadness or melancholiness?  I think "Blue" should be a happy feeling while feeling sad or melancholy should be called just about anything else!  Perhaps it should be described as feeling "blahgck"!  Yuck ... Ick ... I just don't like it, in fact I hate it; I would do just about anything NOT to feel that way ... EVER!  This is probably why I am typically a person who is generally in a good mood ... at least most of the time.  But once in a while, periodically, like everyone else, I end up with a day or maybe even two where I just am NOT feeling happy ... and today just happens to be one of those days!  "Blahgck!!!!"   

So how can a person get over feeling "blahgck" .... TODAY?  Following are the types of things that typically help me tweak a bad attitude (and I am sure hoping they work quickly!)  

1.  Sometimes a person may need a little sunshine ... and Lord knows we have had a lot of cloudy, rainy days this summer ... but today happens to be bright and sunny .... So,  I better get outside!

2.  Sometimes a person may simply need a little exercise ... a walk can do wonders on an attitude ... and walking on a sunny day makes it even better ... I better get my tennis shoes!

3.  A healthy snack or a cool drink of water (or whatever sounds good) can help pick us up ... Got my water bottle - check.

4.  Sometimes a walk with a friend (in person or via phone) may be just what we need.  But be sure to discuss something cheery -- don't dwell on your mood (unless it is a problem that needs fixing) ... I might need my cell phone.

5.  Sometimes our best friend can be found through prayer ... and gazing into a clear blue sky may just do the trick .... I better bring my sun glasses!

6.  Once in a while a good cry may make us feel better ... Oops, I forgot to bring kleenex (but I may have a sleeve) :-)

7.  Counting our blessings can help quite a bit ... Can I borrow your fingers and toes?

8.  A little something to look forward to is always a plus .... Is that bucket list up-to-date?

9.  A good laugh can clear out a bad mood pretty quick ... Heard a good joke anyone?

10.  My favorite mood lifter of all is a hug from my husband and kids ... Better watch out family .... ‘cause here I come!!


Whew!  I am feeling a little more "Blue" already ...  :-) 

Sunday, June 16, 2013

The Sun Is Shining Today ..................... (Happy Father's Day!)

It has been a while since I have found the time to write a blog post.  I started trying to draft something early this morning and was only coming up with something along the lines of how crazy busy this spring and summer have been with work and family and activities for the kids ... blah, blah, blah ... yada, yada, yada ... no one really cares ... EVERYONE is busy now days ...

But as the morning sun glistened through the window, and I sat in my chair with coffee cup and pen in hand, my cell phone rang bringing the right topic for my blog clearly into focus ...

The voice on the other end of the phone was my husband's, and although it was Father's Day, he had already put in more than a few hours of work and had plans to spend the entire day in the field since the sun was shining bright.  This spring and summer have been very trying on everyone who wants to be outdoors experiencing some summer fun; but it has been especially trying on farmers, like my husband ...

This Father's Day I want to take the opportunity to comment on what a great father my husband is to our children.  (He is typically not a big fan when my blog posts get too personal ... so hopefully he won't mind me writing this!)

I can only hope that my children inherit more from their father than just his tremendous blue eyes!  I hope they realize what a wonderful Dad they have -- a dedicated father, farmer and husband and a genuinely empathetic man.  Somehow, he manages to attend the majority of their baseball and softball games as well as other activities including music recitals and dance competitions which otherwise would probably not have been his first choice in entertainment.  On occasion, he may have to show up with dirt on his cap and a trace of farmer on his shoes, but he manages to get there every chance he can!  He wouldn't miss this for the world!  He also totally understands the value of spending quality family time both through simple things and vacations as well.

I am proud to call this man the father of my children!  Although my husband and I share a positive outlook on life, he has definitely taught me a thing or two.  As many farmers have been "ornery" since early spring, my husband has taken each day at a time, rarely complaining about the weather or worrying about things which he can not control.  I am sure the weather concerns him and I know he would love to have a number of sunny days in a row, but he has taught me that worrying about tomorrow never does any good.  And he is right!  Although I can't tell you if the sun will come out tomorrow, I do know that the sun is shining bright today!           

Saturday, April 27, 2013

Opening Day For The Kleve's


My family and I went on a fabulous, eventful family vacation the first week in April!!  We purchased tickets to match our bucket list goals, packed up the van and headed East to New York City!  It was Opening Week for Major League Baseball and Monday, April 1, was our first stop for Opening Day Chicago Cubs at PNC Park in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.  As Cubs fans, it doesn't get much better than that!  The morning began with a wintery drive, but luckily the snow subsided and the sun came out in time for the game.  (It was still cold though!)  We bundled in double sweatshirts, winter coats, hats, gloves etc. and followed the crowd down the street, along a path near the river, across Roberto Clemente Bridge, down the middle of the closed highway, and into PNC Park. Our seats were in the outfield and although we were slightly behind a pole, we could see. I took photos of the players, mostly the Cubs, as well as photos of Shawn and the kids in the stadium. I also took a few photos of the Pirates.  Despite the cold, it was a good game and the Cubs even won!  “Rizzo” of the Cubs hit a home run and we ended up in the crowd in a photo in Sports Illustrated.  How cool is that?!

The next day, we arrived in New York City via New Jersey, the Holland Tunnel and the Lincoln Tunnel; through many lanes of traffic, toll booths and a few stressful moments. As our van hit the main streets of Manhattan, we were greeted by near-rush-hour traffic as taxi cabs and other cars were honking and lurching forward amid green lights, yellow lights and even red lights; while crowds of people rushed across the streets despite the fact that we were trying to drive through the intersection and the light was actually green!  With stiff necks and pounding hearts, we pulled into the parking area of the hotel before 3pm.  We made it!
 
 In our hotel room, we were amazed by our view of Times Square from the 25th floor. Eventually, we tore ourselves away from our view and the security of our room, mustered up some bravery, and headed downstairs and out the front door.  We were greeted immediately by gazillions of people all walking at a hurried pace, most seemingly dressed in dark colors with headphones and cell phones and busy schedules. We attempted to step into pace with them but were a bit dizzy as we tried to check out the sites, gather a few photos, keep track of where we were as well as where we were going, all while making sure we didn’t get run over by vehicles or even pedestrians. We were in awe at large TV screen billboards as we walked down the street and found our way to the Minskoff Theater where we would be attending a Broadway production of Lion King a few hours later.  In time, we grew a little more accustomed to our surroundings and the pace of the city.  We easily found the theater and our tickets and our way to our seats. We had seats in the mezzanine section in the second row …. Great seats! The play was amazing, the acting was fabulous, the costumes and set were brilliant and the experience gave me chills as the play began. It was also enjoyable because it was a movie we had watched many, many times when the kids were very small! Even Shawn seemed to enjoy the show and was amazed at the set and costumes.  I think the kids enjoyed it too even though they didn’t want to admit it.

 As soon as the play ended and the applause was over, we headed out of the theater and quickly made our way over more than 10 blocks down Broadway to Madison Square Garden where we hoped to get last minute tickets to the NIT Final Four Iowa Hawkeye basketball game that had just started. The next few moments were quite a story to be told as we attempted to get into the game.  To make a long story short, we made it in and enjoyed an unexpected bucket list item that night!  (The story is another blog all of it’s own).  Anyway, our seats were pretty high up … but we didn’t care … we were inside Madison Square Garden for the NIT Final Four game with the Iowa Hawkeyes!

The next three days we tackled the sights of New York City.  You name it, we probably saw it, even if we only caught a glimpse!  We had the opportunity to view the city from the observation deck of the Empire State Building.  We could see for miles … the tops of very tall buildings … the skyline … the Hudson River … the World Trade Center … Statue of Liberty … etc. It was quite cold outside, which, although it required coats and hoods etc., it also probably kept a few people inside so we could have a better view with fewer people (can’t complain about that!)

On a bus tour, we managed to catch some sights and learn a few things as we went past a variety of sights including Wall Street and the Wall Street Bull. We saw the ball that is dropped on New Year’s Eve.  We saw areas affected by Hurricane Sandy and the Brooklyn Bridge and the Manhattan Bridge from a number of angles. We saw a variety of sights where movies were filmed including KATZS restaurant from “When Harry Met Sally”, the bar from “Coyote Ugly”, sights from "Friends" and "Sex in the City", buildings from "I Am Legend", "Ghost Busters", "The Proposal" … etc. We also saw one site where they were in the process of filming a movie right then.  We saw buildings where famous people had lived and were told that we probably had seen a variety of famous people walking among us in Manhattan, although we hadn’t noticed. We went through China Town and Little Italy. We saw the American Girl Store, Saks Fifth Avenue, and a variety of shops in SOHO. We went by the Waldorf Hotel, the United Nations, the Chrysler building, flat iron building etc.  We didn't experience much of the food in New York City ... we didn't have time!  We actually ate one meal at McDonald's, one at Applebees, popcorn in the baseball stadiums and a quite a few bologna sandwiches in our hotel room.  We experienced traffic jams, irate tourists and New York City folks trying desperately to prove they are not as rude as some may think!

We viewed the World Trade Center Memorial and took a few photos.  They were in the process of constructing the new towers which will include an observation deck. We walked up a number of blocks to the “Staten Island Ferry” where we hopped on a Harbor Cruise to see the Statue of Liberty. However, we could not actually go onto Elis Island or into the Statue of Liberty due to continued damage from Hurricane Sandy. (I think people will be permitted to go there later this summer).  We saw the sites of the city skyline from the harbor and also went under the Brooklyn and Manhattan bridges. Again, I took lots of photos. It was nice that we managed to fit in a “boat ride” as we do on almost every family vacation.

We also went on another tour where we saw lots of amazing, historical architecture including churches etc. We drove by the New York Ballet, New York Philharmonic and Manhattan School of Music. We saw the Metropolitan Museum of Art and the Gugenheim Museum. The architecture of the Gugenheim was very different and something to see. We saw Grant’s Tomb and the site where John Lennon was shot which has a memorial candle burning. We went by Central Park from all sides.  We went down the streets of Harlem where we witnessed people living their day-to-day lives and we saw sites where Martin Luther King and Malcolm X had been. We saw graffiti on a wall that said “Harlem Shake”. Since "The Harlem Shake" is such a big thing these days, I tried to take a picture … but so did the guy behind me … so I didn’t get it!

We got off the tour bus just in time to head on down the sidewalk to catch the subway to the Bronx for the Yankee’s Game.  Getting on the subway, we had to be careful not to let the doors close before we all hopped on.  We didn’t want to leave anyone behind in the subway station! We clung to the poles and each other so we didn’t fall down onto the other subway riders (I think the whole family was afraid I would be the one to lose my balance …. Imagine that!) Anyway, we hopped off the subway in the Bronx and headed to the stadium with others in the crowd. I took a few photos of the stadium. Our seats were in the bleacher section of the outfield.  Although it was quite cold out, it was the warmest of the three games we went to.  It was fun to experience our surroundings as we listened to the Yankee (and Boston Red Sox) fans around us.  They all had Eastern accents which was fun to listen to (even if I already hear it often from Maura).  As is typical of all the games and stadiums we have been to thus far, we had a spectator near us that was comical and amusing as well as another spectator that thought he knew everything about the game of baseball.  The crowd sang YMCA and other songs in addition to the typical “Take Me Out to the Ball Game”, during the seventh inning stretch. We enjoyed being able to see #42, a closeout pitcher for the Yankees who will be retiring soon. The Yankees won, and when the game ended, we followed the crowd out and onto the subway and headed back to our hotel.   One of the fans commented on Christian wearing a Cubs stocking cap.

Friday was our last full day in New York City. Early that morning we headed over to NBC Studios in Rockefeller Center where they were filming the Today Show. We walked by the window as they were reporting, but we apparently weren’t on camera. Then, we continued on to stand along the fence line where they were filming. We watched and I took photos and later we watched the show that my mom had taped ... and there we were on the television behind the boy in the blue coat as the camera scanned the crowd two times. Cool!

We walked around Rockefeller Plaza.  We had some time to kill so we bought coffee and a donut from a street vendor and we sat by the water fountain and people watched. It was sunny out and was just fun to sit and watch the various people, many hustling on by, as well as a man and a woman who attempted to entertain us by singing and playing guitar.   Later, we ran into a man (with an official looking badge) who was asking for donations to the soup kitchen. After being humbled by many homeless people on the streets that week, it was nice to give in a way that we felt may hopefully benefit a few homeless people.  Later, we headed into Radio City Music Hall for a tour. Gabriel Iglasius was scheduled to perform there that night. While we were touring, they got the stage set up for him and as we left we saw his tour bus that had arrived just moments before.  We enjoyed the tour and the historical architecture of the building that had been there for many years, paintings that had been restored, and photos of people who had performed there. We sat in the auditorium, toured the bathrooms, went in lounges where famous people had been, though even they were not allowed to sit on the historical furniture. We saw costumes worn throughout the years by the Rockettes and we even got to talk to and get our picture taken with a real Rockette. I don’t know who enjoyed it more …. Karissa because she was talking to a dancer or Shawn and Christian because they were having their picture taken with a young woman with really long legs!  I enjoyed it because I finally got at least one family picture for the vacation!

Friday the weather was a little nicer so we decided to leave a little early to get to the Met's game (our third and final game/stadium of this vacation) to watch batting practice and hopefully get some balls! We took the Subway from Grand Central Station to Queens for the game.  It was fun to go through Grand Central Station because now we can honestly use the phrase “It’s busier than Grand Central Station in here!”  Eventually we found our way to a ticket area where we refilled our Metro card for the ride to Queens and back for the Mets Game.
 After a 45 minute subway ride, we arrived at Citi Field. This was a newer stadium and was a bit different than other stadiums … rounder and had an escalator in the center. We walked around the stadium, took some photos and found our seats in the outfield. In our section, we headed to the front wall and watched batting practice. One of the workers offered to take our family picture. We watched the players bat and the weather was nice (for a while anyway). Christian was excited when one of the Mets players handed him a ball. (I took his picture). Next, a ball was hit to our section and Christian and another young guy ran around trying to find it … in the meantime, Shawn found it …. So I took a picture of Shawn and Karissa with ball number two. Then, as we continued to watch, the Florida Marlins took the field for practice and a player named Fernandez handed Christian yet another ball.  This time they took MY picture with this ball.  Finally, the game began.  Although it started out the nicest night for a game, it turned out to be the coldest one yet because the wind was blowing strong!  WE FROZE!! We froze so much we ended up leaving in the middle of the ninth inning. (The Marlins won). In the cold, we proceeded to take the Subway back to Grand Central Station and then walked back to the hotel where we crashed in anticipation of an early morning with plans of driving out of NYC by 6:00 a.m.

Saturday morning dawned early and we got out of bed, gave our bags to the bell boy, checked out and met the valet with our van. The kids slept much of the drive that day. We drove to a Perkins in Pennsylvania for a real meal with a big breakfast! We then proceeded driving.  We made a stop in Canton, Ohio and went through the Football Hall of Fame.  By 7:00 that night, we arrived at a Hampton Inn in Fremont, Indiana. We talked to the front desk who found a Dominoe’s for us because we had promised Karissa the entire trip that we would eat Dominoes in our hotel room at least one night on the trip. We enjoyed eating the pizza and just enjoyed hanging out that night in the hotel. The kids swam and we enjoyed some quiet family moments where life seemed a little more our pace in Fremont, Indiana. 
 Sunday morning we were up early once again and were soon back on the road.  Later that afternoon, after many hours of driving, our van made its way onto the quiet streets near our home.  We took a few moments to take a picture of the mileage (almost 2400 miles) and gather up the luggage. Before Shawn and I were even out of the van yet, the kids were in the back yard getting ready for some family baseball!!  As we made our way into the house, the phone rang to let me know the kids had my glove in the back yard! Shawn finished bringing in the luggage and the kids and I started playing ball.  Karissa soft tossed to Christian and I fielded the balls as he hit. Karissa later practiced pitching softballs while Christian caught. Eventually, Shawn joined us outside where Christian and Shawn played catch! Yes, after a week filled with Opening Season baseball, we were enjoying the best Opening Day ball game yet to be had …. that of Kleve family baseball in our very own back yard!!